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Q. I have heard about women having multiple orgasms and having powerful orgasms that spray out of the vagina. I would like to learn about this… Could you tell me how to start this?

Dr. Ruth.  These types of orgasms and the idea of female ejaculation comes from the concept that there is a G spot within the woman’s vagina that when stimulated will cause these sensations.  I have spoken to many, many gynecologists, none of whom have seen any scientific proof that such a G spot exists. On the other hand, in the letters I get, I do receive letters from women, or men reporting about their partners, who say they have had such experiences.  The only conclusion I can draw is that some women may have a sensitive area in the vagina that can give them these strong orgasms and cause some sort of liquid to spurt from their vagina. I do not believe that most women have this capacity or I would receive more letters on this subject, and doctors would know more about it. So if you want to have your partner try to locate a “G spot” in your vagina (supposedly it is located on the inner front wall) then go right ahead. Just don’t get frustrated, or angry at him, if he he’s not successful.

Q. I have located her G-spot, felt the swelling and the roughness of it. But it seems she holds back every time. I know she can squirt if she stops holding back (she wants too). I try more pressure than other time. I just don’t know what to do, she wants to squirt I just don’t get it!!

Dr. Ruth. First of all I need to congratulate you. You’ve located a woman’s G spot, something no medical doctor has ever done. I don’t understand why she’s not squirting out gallons of liquid thanks to your discovery. OK, sorry for the sarcasm, but while there is anecdotal evidence that stimulating a spot in the vagina can trigger orgasms that may also lead to a gushing of liquid, there is no scientific evidence for a G spot whatsoever. So maybe it exists and maybe it doesn’t, but you certainly shouldn’t blame your partner for not squirting. Since so few women report this effect, if it does exist, it is certainly not common. And the truth is you, or any man, have zero proof that you’ve located a so-called G spot without actually triggering an orgasm, so that even if your partner could have such orgasms (and my guess is that she can’t) there’s no vaginal GPS system that would guarantee to guide you to its exact location. So if you want to keep trying once in a while, go right ahead and if you meet with success, let us know. But since the odds are stacked against you, stop putting pressure on your partner.

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