The #1 Question That Changed My Life
by Randi Levin
How many questions have you asked in your lifetime?
It’s as if, as women, we are prewired to be inquisitive. Somehow, we just need to know!
Our inquiring minds kick into gear when as children we need to understand the world. Our expertise in asking does not really expand until we get married, and kicks into high alert once we have our own children.
Yet, how often do you ask yourself a question?
I know that it took me the better part of 5 decades to do so.
I was at a crossroads in my life, bridging the gap between what was and what was yet to be. My mid-life reinvention would not have been possible without turning my expertise in the art of asking toward myself. I got to a point as I was shifting gears mid-life where I needed to know, to really know, to understand not only what had been, but also what was possible. So I did it. I asked. I asked myself one question. That question changed my life.
The question that I posed to myself was, “if it were 10 years ago, and if nothing were an excuse…not money, or time, not age, not skill set…what would I do? If nothing were holding me back, what would propel me forward?” The answer to that question led me back to school. The answer to that question led me to open my own business. The answer to that question led me to inspire and support 1000’s of women. The answer to that question led me to live my own legacy.
It also led me to catch a thief!
So powerful was this question that I asked and then answered for myself, that it completely altered the course of my life and connected me back to someone I had forgotten about. That person was Randi! For years, I had allowed myself to be robbed. A thief called fear had crept into my life when I wasn’t looking and had stood in the way of my goals and my legacy. For years, I had been stealing from myself with excuses and reasons why I couldn’t do or have this or that.
I needed to catch that thief. It only took…one question.
Answering a question about the rest of my life based on eliminating obstacles and excuses was not only a catalyst for the changes I was seeking, it was also a defining moment in route to purpose and personal growth. My answer to this one question is what led me to becoming a transformational coach, keynote and author. If I had never asked it, the journey would have been different.
Do you have a question that you need to ask yourself? Perhaps, it is the same one that I posed. I will admit it is a question that I ask most of my clients and audiences. The important message is that in the course of your everyday existence you miss a lot, you lose track of yourself, you shift. There is a gap between who you said you would be and who you are. It happens to almost every woman, and most men too. It happens somewhere in the mid-life zone. Asking yourself some tough questions allows you to pause just long enough to look back in at your life. Not to dig up and regurgitate the past, but to use the power of NOW as a tool for catching your own thief, your own excuses, and making right on them.
What would you most regret never doing?
What’s now and what’s next?
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Randi Levin CPC, founder & CEO, Randi Levin Coaching—is a transitional life strategist, author, speaker, and reinvention expert. Her core belief is that as women, we have the choice and the power to carve out and curate our own legacy based on embracing our ongoing evolution. She is a contributor and featured expert for Huffington Post, Thrive Global, DivorceForce, and a variety of national publications and podcasts. Her workshops have been featured in The Wall Street Journal.