Can we change the perception of age, or are we fighting a losing battle?

can we change the perception of age, the three tomatoesYou tomatoes are so evolved. A while ago we polled tomatoes about how we feel about telling our ages. Well 62% of you said you have no problem telling your age. Congratulations. The head tomato however, was in the 27% who said you don’t actually lie about your age, but don’t volunteer it either. It’s that don’t ask, don’t tell policy. (And yes, if you’re doing the math, 11% said they lie about their age.) So it got us to thinking about why some of us are reluctant to tell our age? Is it us being vain, or is it society’s response when you throw a certain number out there?

We think it’s the later, because what usually happens if we say the number “out loud” is invariably “wow, you don’t look that old.” Now our Mamas would have called that a “left handed compliment”. Honestly, it’s not that we look so much younger (although of course we all think we do), but it’s the perceptions of what “that” age should look like. Case in point, the Head Tomato recently received a letter from her county executive’s office, inviting her to a “senior” celebration in the park, with bingo and a chance to get her senior ID card – for free! This so sent her over the edge, that she penned the letter below.

can we change the perception of age, the three tomatoes

Okay, so maybe if we all start shouting out our ages that will change the perception. Hmmm…the head tomato will drink a martini to that on her birthday and ponder deep thoughts like, if you shout your age in the woods will anybody hear? Or maybe we just need to live in France where older women are more appreciated and no asks them to play bingo.

The tomato behind The Three Tomatoes.
Cheryl Benton, aka the “head tomato” is founder and publisher of The Three Tomatoes, a digital lifestyle magazine for “women who aren’t kids”. Having lived and worked for many years in New York City, the land of size zero twenty-somethings, she was truly starting to feel like an invisible woman. She created The Three Tomatoes just for the fun of it as the antidote for invisibility and sent it to 60 friends. Today she has thousands of friends and is chief cheerleader for smart, savvy women who want to live their lives fully at every age and every stage. She is the author of the novel, "Can You See Us Now?" and co-author of a humorous books of quips, "Martini Wisdom." Because she's lived a long time, her full bio won't fit here. If you want the "blah, blah, blah", read more. www.thethreetomatoes.com/about-the-head-tomato

Cheryl Benton

The tomato behind The Three Tomatoes. Cheryl Benton, aka the “head tomato” is founder and publisher of The Three Tomatoes, a digital lifestyle magazine for “women who aren’t kids”. Having lived and worked for many years in New York City, the land of size zero twenty-somethings, she was truly starting to feel like an invisible woman. She created The Three Tomatoes just for the fun of it as the antidote for invisibility and sent it to 60 friends. Today she has thousands of friends and is chief cheerleader for smart, savvy women who want to live their lives fully at every age and every stage. She is the author of the novel, "Can You See Us Now?" and co-author of a humorous books of quips, "Martini Wisdom." Because she's lived a long time, her full bio won't fit here. If you want the "blah, blah, blah", read more. www.thethreetomatoes.com/about-the-head-tomato

4 Responses

  1. Rhea says:

    Fabulous reply Cheryl! Bingo indeed!
    Obviously the senior perception is so archaic.
    Hopefully your reply will institute some changes
    on thinking.

  2. Beth Goehring says:

    Your letter to the County Executive should be copywritten and shared so all of us all over America can use it!

  3. gayle t. says:

    Happy belated Birthday, Cheryl! Great letter. Well done!

  4. Amen Sista…I would love to know the average age of your County Ex. Bingo – really. I’m with you for cocktails, mine would be champagne with a fabulous Cuban band playing a sexy salsa. That’s this 75 year-old idea of a good time. My I.D. card says…
    Fabulous @anyage!
    Happy Birthday xo

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