Tips for Creating More Fulfilling Relationships
- Create more connection through where you place your attention
Focus of what the person is doing RIGHT, rather than what is missing. Most people blossom through words of praise and encouragement and shrink when criticized. As you look for what the person is doing right, you will notice even more to appreciate!
Practice: If you are about to criticize, stop and ask yourself, “Will this comment cause connection or distance? Do I really need to say this?”
- Be available through compassionate communication
The best way to do this is by communicating your upsets, needs and desires. Otherwise, resentments grow and will cause distance in the relationship. A client who was considering leaving her husband said, “For years I swept everything under the rug and now the rug is getting lumpy.”
Practice: If you find it difficult to speak up, are afraid of confrontation, or end up in arguments then work with a relationship coach who can teach you solution oriented, positive communication methods.
- Be available to yourself!
When you fill yourself with love, then you can be more available for others. When you feel full, then you can give out of desire or generosity rather than because you feel obligated or to receive in return. Also, when you are caring toward yourself, you won’t be looking to the outside for nurturing and love in the same way as when you feel a lack.
Practice: For one week, look in the mirror, smile and give yourself a compliment Generally, speak kindly to yourself as you would to a sweet child. If you catch yourself criticizing or negating yourself, then simply say, “Sorry, I didn’t mean to say that. You really are __________________ (fill in a kinder statement)
Healing Technique for more peace, calm and self-love: “Hands on Heart”
- Cross your hands in the center of your chest which is your heart chakra
- Inhale gently through your nose and exhale through your mouth
- Feel the connection between your hands and your heart. The palms of our hands have heart charkas also so you are creating a 3 way heart connect!ion.
- Repeat two more times and smile 🙂
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Cheryl Lazarus, CRC, CLC, CDC is a speaker, Certified Relationship Coach, Energy Healer, and Master NLP Practitioner with therapeutic expertise. She specializes in helping individuals and couples to created more intimacy and connection in their relationships.
She believes in being true to oneself while in relationship, and at the same time, bringing compassion and understanding to one’s partner.
Cheryl has presented at the United Nations, professional organizations, holds workshops, support groups and has been on Expert Panels.
Cheryl’s credentials also include that she is a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Life and Professional Coach, and Ordained Interfaith Minister. In addition she has trained in intimacy and ancient Taoist and Tantric practices of sacred sexuality. She is a contributing author to the book, Onward and Upward: :Guide for Getting Through New York Divorce and Family Law Issues.
Cheryl also specializes in helping women who are successful in their careers to be-come more successful in their relationships. She has the unique ability to pinpoint is-sues quickly and to provide solutions. She draws on years of experience as a corporate executive traveling internationally as well as being the owner of the first stores globally to specialize in business clothing for pregnant working women, while being married and raising her son.
When working with clients, Cheryl combines actionable steps with heart-centered energetic and spiritual practices. Therefore, clients are able to integrate on a profound level that positively affects all areas of their lives.
She coaches individually in person or globally via Skype or the phone. Email Cheryl at cheryl@zengalove.com. Or visit www.zengalove.com. Sign up for your copy of “3 Keys to Lasting Love!”
Thanks for easy, practical tips that we can use right away. I love the “Hands on Heart” healing technique and find it soothing to use as I’m falling asleep (or having trouble sleeping).
Excellent advice Cheryl! Love the heartfelt hands on heart as well. Great for sleep:)❤️❤️
Be well
Arden
Thank you Joan and Arden – so glad that you like the practical tips and advice! Interesting that you mention liking my technique, ‘hands on heart’ for sleep. I taught this technique at a seminar a year ago and a woman told me recently that she uses it every night to help her let go of the day and to transition into sleep!!!!